recently i listen to radio while i was on my way to work in the morning. they usually have a talk session where they discuss random stuffs be it current issues or things that listeners post to them. there is this one topic they discuss about cheating in relationship. is it alright to think of someone else when youre already in relationship/married? will it be considered cheating?
of course, there will be 2 responses to this.
1. it is okay as long as you dont act on it. afterall it is just in your mind
2. that would be cheating. if you love someone you will be thinking and loyal to that person only.
well both answers are acceptable.
what made me thinking is that the mind is a great thing. it can be something so insignificant but it also can achieve greatness or becoming very dangerous.
one can dream and visualize or fantasize many things. miracles, the impossible, absurd things. on the other hand the mind can be blank and not thinking of anything. or mostly buzzing like foggy.
the mind on its own can do nothing and brings no harm. it doesnt cause even the slightest change to the world. everything only happen in the head of the person no matter how great or bizarre the thought is. however when things that happen in the mind arebeing shown via actions, that is when everything starts to move. like a clockwork. it triggers effects and consequences. consequences triggers reactions and in turn create more consquences be it small or big just like a butterfly effect. these combination of results over time will create the future. wether it be a good or bad future, nobody knows. some things lead to a splendid things while some can lead to monstrosity.
now back to our issue regarding cheating, thinking of someone else of course, wont do anything and lead to anything. no harm will come from just thinking of it as theyre all in the mind. things start to get ugly when actions are being made out of the thinking. this doesnt necessarily means physically having affairs/sex. but also through projections that can be in form of story, portrayal, or pictures.
this reminds me of the islamic teaching where if you think of something bad you are not doing sin, but if you take action on it you will be sinning. however if you think of something good or wish for it youre already considered as doing good deed and it is even better when you act on it. this shows how great a mind is and how scary it is. without action, a thinking is just a thinking. merely a fiction imprisoned in one's mind. but combined with action, everything changes.
the mind is the impetus of everything that happened, like a seed to grow trees with the right action in right condition, it can grow into something big. a small vibration can lead to a big wave that consumes everything in its path destroying everything. the mind that is so harmless in every way, can lead to a nation built or even destroy a nation.
this also means that the what we think can affect us indirectly. keep thinking of positive things and youll be a better person and if you keep on thinking of negative things, one can turn to be a dark person and do bad things. so yeah keep on thinking about goodness and you will eventually act on them.
